What’s Your Planning Style?

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Do you make plans or are you a fly by the seat of your pants kind of person? Do you commit to things easily, or do you prefer to consider all the possibilities first? What’s your planning style?

Personally I vary wildly between the two. If I’m in control of something I want to know all the details. If I’m handing over to someone else all I want to know is where they want me and at what time – the rest I don’t even care.

The Viking has a very different planning style. He isn’t comfortable doing something unless he knows all the details. Not content with the basics of what, when and where, he also wants to know who else is going to be there – a challenging feat when you’re not the one organising.

I am hesitant to say yes to something unless I can be sure I can do it. I like to make an informed choice.

That’s the point I will want all the details – to consult with everyone and make sure it is possible before I commit. I will want all the informaiton I can get my hands on to be sure once I say yes to doing something, I’m going to do it.

On the up side you can be sure once I say yes it will be locked in. On the down side, I’ll almost never say yes to something right away.

I was once told by a good friend I’m so hesitant to book in plans it was like I didn’t want to see them at all.

The Viking is the exact opposite. He will say yes to everything and figure out the logistics later (or leave it up to me).

He has no concerns about going back to someone once he’s said yes to something and changing or cancelling the plans (not to that person’s detriment, of course).

Me? I have this irrational belief that once I say yes to something no details are up for negotiation. If I’ve said yes, I’m doing it, no matter what happens between now and then.

Ideally we would both sit somewhere in the middle, but at least we’re not both insane in the same way.

How do you approach making plans? Once you’ve said yes to something, will you cancel or change it?

  • http://johnanthonyjames.com/ John James

    I think once I came to terms with my introversion — no, more than that — once I embraced my introversion, these questions became less important.

    I’m an introvert. Any form of social interaction will be emotionally draining for me, especially in situations where there are a lot of people involved, and most especially when there are a lot of strangers. It doesn’t matter if this is work-related or socialising with friends. I understand my strengths and weaknesses, and know my limits.

    So, if I’m asked to do something that requires me to interact with large numbers of people, I will mostly say no. If a request is more focused on one-to-one interaction, then I’m more inclined to say yes.

    This self-awareness makes it easier for me to plan things, and that’s probably the key to efficient planning. The more self-aware you are — the more you understand and acknowledge your strengths and weakness, and your likes and dislikes — the easier it is to make decisions and plan for the future.

    • http://kikiandtea.com/ Tamsin Howse

      I’ve been thinking about this comment since you made it. I had strongly mixed reactions but not clearly enough to know how I felt.

      I think I’ve nutted it down to this: Being self aware is a good thing, and I think it’s good that you’re able to use that to inform your decisions. But it only works if that’s who you want to be. I think knowing your limits is only half of it – you also need to consistently push them.

      • http://johnanthonyjames.com/ John James

        I don’t think anyone needs to push their limits if there’s no need to. At my stage in life where I’m financially secure, in an emotionally secure relationship, and where (despite our recent tragedy) I feel happy and contented, I see no need to push my limits anymore.

        Also, in terms of Introversion, I think asking an introvert to push their limits and try and be more social, for example, is a bit like asking a gay man to push his limits are start dating women. Some things are just hard-wired into us. Introversion isn’t something that needs to be overcome or cured.

        But we all sit on a spectrum, and I think some people feel the need to keep pushing their limits more than other people, and that’s perfectly valid too. Different strokes for different folks. :)

        • http://kikiandtea.com/ Tamsin Howse

          I didn’t mean in terms of introversion, more growth. Keep growing.

          • http://johnanthonyjames.com/ John James

            Yeah, I’m not sure I believe in all that stuff anymore.

            This is just my personal experience, of course. Maybe it’s my age, but I just think the more “mindful” I’ve become, and the more I’ve stopped worrying about “growth” the happier I’ve become, and the easier life feels…