I’m Afraid To Run

running outside street france

I want to be a runner. I’ve always lived in awe of people who enjoy exercise, who get up early and go for a run, or who can be bothered to at the end of the day. I’ve always wanted to be a sporty person. But I’m not. At least, I keep telling myself that.

This week I read a post by Kate Young about being afraid to do box jumps. It hit home. Box jumps (where you jump up onto a box) are terrifying. I’m always scared the box will flip, I’ll only half hit it, I’ll slip or fall, or something will happen and it will hurt. They were always the scariest part of doing any kind of exercise class (and one of the many reasons I didn’t last too long doing exercise classes).

Right now, that’s how I feel about running. I’m making excuses – my shoes are too old and I don’t want to buy new ones in case I don’t ever go again. It’s too cold. I shouldn’t start when it’s raining. The ground is uneven and I might twist my ankle. People will realise how terrible my fitness is. My knees are too weak. I won’t last a full 20 minutes… The list goes on.

But I have to do something.

I recently had my hormones checked, they’ve always been quite dodgy, and right now my testosterone is way up. I’ve been put on something to bring it down, resulting in me feeling like Edward J Fox who lived in a box in the middle of the airstrip, only when the jumbos took off I didn’t move my box out of the way. Splat.

I wake up every morning feeling like I’ve been attacked by gnomes wielding snow shovels and drag myself out of bed only to go to work and be run off my feet all day because the master’s courses I’ve spent the last year working on are going live. Get home, collapse in front of the TV, fall asleep on the couch. Rinse. Repeat.

The specialist said to me “To get your hormones in check, the most important thing you can do is exercise for 20 minutes every day”.

Every day?!

I don’t even exercise once a week! Not unless running between meetings or rolling between the sheets counts.

So I have to do something. And what better thing to do than just start what I’ve always wanted to do – run. All I need to do us go outside and give it a go. What’s so hard about that?

Turns out, everything. Or, to be more specific, fear.

I’m afraid.

What are you afraid to do? Any advice for me?

  • http://johnanthonyjames.com/ John James

    I think you need to find the exercise that suits you… for me, that’s walking… when doctors say you need to exercise 20 minutes a day, what they usually mean is that you need to raise your heart-rate above normal for 20 minutes a day – running is one way to do that. So is aerobics, or swimming – and like I mentioned, for me it’s walking… I don’t mean a gentle stroll – I mean walking as fast as I can…

    I’m lucky that I have a 15 minute walk from my bus to my office each day – I walk this as fast as I can, twice a day – plus, I also like to go for a half-hour walk at lunch (but not quite as fast-paced…) And, of course, The Rhonnifer and I walk two suburbs away with our shopping trolley every Saturday to do our shopping… That’s great exercise as well…

    So, T, my advice to you is to find ways to be active twenty minutes a day – that might be running, it might not. If it’s not running, don’t fuss it. Not everyone likes running. I know I don’t! :)

    • https://kikiandtea.com/ Tamsin Howse

      I probably should have said in the post: I dislike all exercise. I’ve tried: walking, trx, swimming, yoga, Pilates, pump, dancing, group sports, gyms, kick boxing, self defence…. I’m sure there’s more.
      I’m not looking for an alternative to running, I want to be a runner.

      • http://johnanthonyjames.com/ John James

        Well, just do it! :)

        You’re a very determined person when you want to be… I mean, KK&T didn’t just setup itself – it happened because you wanted it to happen…

        Like my imaginary guru Will Powers says, make it habit, make it happen… so, make running a daily habit in your routine…

        Knowing what you’re like, I don’t think you’re a morning person, so getting up earlier to run around your local park might not work – so why not make it a lunch-time habit… run down to Wentworth Park, do a few laps, run back… rain or shine…

        Just – Do – It!

        • https://kikiandtea.com/ Tamsin Howse

          You’re bang on with the morning business!! 😉

  • Maryann

    I agree with JJ walking is my exercise of choice. I would suggest you start with walking then if you want build up to running. I also bought myself a cross trainer a few years ago as I hate going to gyms. I do 20 mins before work and sometimes 20 after work depending on whether I have had a chance of a walk at luchtime or if the weather is bad. My one real tip is to make excercise habit that you do not even have to think about, we can all talk ourselves out of exercising. In the morning I just get up, change and do it.

    • http://johnanthonyjames.com/ John James

      Yes – you need to make it a habit… so you don’t even think about it – you just do it… :)

  • http://www.missrbit.com/ Radhika

    I can relate to you Tamsin. I’m not a fan of running so I’ve recently chalenged myself to fall in love with running – . I exercise a lot in general (not running) but when I started I was very intimidated by it all and I think my advice would be to take baby steps. Start walking or join a group fitness class. Just let your body gradually get used to the idea of regular movement and move it up a notch when you’re comfortable. Don’t go too hard too fast or you’ll set yourself up for failure. Good luck!

  • Jess the Mess

    Couch to 5k!! Otherwise known as C25K. Its a running program you can get for free off the internet (I think there’s an app too these days), and involves a progressive increase in intervals of jogging and walking (starts off at something like 30 sec jog, one min walk), until after two or so months you can run for half an hour, or 5km! The great thing is that you increase the running by baby steps, but it still doesn’t take too long until you’re there.
    It’s brilliant. I always thought about runners as this mysterious “other”, like wooow they’re running, like it was something I’d never do. Then I found C25K and it really eases you into it at the perfect pace. The feeling when I ran continuously for 20 minutes the first time was amazing!
    You can do it! If I can anyone can. I sound like a person in a cult about this program, but it really makes it achievable and it’s so rewarding.

  • Guest

    Maybe you could get this singlet to motivate you to start?

  • Maree Talidu

    As someone with a multiple chronic illnesses and an invisible disability, I CAN’T exercise the way I want to, my body simply won’t let me, and hasn’t for years. My pain (both joint, muscle and nerve) is constant and unbearable. I would never run, but regular, gentle walking is what I’d suggest. Or even aqua aerobics classes as they take the risk of falling out, and you’d be surprised how intense it really is. The way you described how you are currently feeling with fatigue etc gives you insight into a day in the life of someone with chronic invisible illness. The only exercise I ever undertake is swimming in Summer (gently and slowly- non weight bearing so it doesn’t hurt) and sometimes I’ll ride my bike on the flat areas around where I live. Also doesn’t have huge impact on my joints etc. Give it a crack, I say.

    • https://kikiandtea.com/ Tamsin Howse

      Yes! Aqua aerobics was what I did for a year as my introduction to exercise when I had absolutely NO muscle mass and no fitness at all. Actually the aquatic centre near me just opened, I wonder if they have it for me to do it again.

  • Pingback: This Week: 12 September 2014()

  • ashleigh – mymeow.com.au

    I was afraid to run too… and I started, and five years later I have made friends, completed a half ironman, 4 half marathons and a marathon! You just need to start. Joining a group like Can Too is an awesome way to start :) I HONESTLY could not run to the shop for ice cream five years ago. And I am NOT fast. But I love it :)

  • Pingback: Why You Should Exercise To Improve Your Mental Health()