How Do You Want To Be Remembered?

Remember-Me

Not too long ago, a man at a friend’s work passed away. He was spoken of so kindly by those who knew him, said to be a happy, helpful person, one who made everyone feel valued at all times. The loss of this man was felt deeply in the work community, for his kindness, and his empathy. He used to tell everyone where he worked because he was so proud of it, he made others proud to work there too.

He was the cleaner.

A person so often overlooked, so rarely remembered.

It brought into sharp focus something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately.

Over the past 8 months, I’ve been acting as the manager at work and one of the things that has come with that is a lot of discussion about where I want to go with my career, what I want to do next, and what this experience can teach me. That’s required a lot of soul searching, and although I have an answer for my career, something else became clear to me as well: I don’t want to be remembered just for being good at my job (although of course I’d like that too).

I don’t want to be remembered just for being hard working, good at excel, or any of the other things people write on my references. I don’t want to leave people’s lives and have them say “boy, she was such a good *insert job title here*”.

I want to be remembered for being kind. For being loyal. For caring.

I don’t remember where I read it but I recall reading something that said: Make a list of all the things you are. Have someone you trust add to that list. Good things, bad things, everything that you are.

Then add some words you want to be.

Cross out the ones you don’t.

Go, and be that person.

It seems so simple, but it’s such an amazing way to focus yourself. I put some words down, I added some, and I crossed some out, and I ended up with a list – who I want to be. What I want to be remembered for:

Warm
Kind
Fun
Caring
Loyal

Now, all that is left is to be that person. It’s as simple and as difficult as that.

Who do you want to be? What do you want to be remembered for? 

 

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  • Gary

    I think your list is spot on Tamsin.

    Warm
    Kind
    Fun
    Caring
    Loyal

    Good enough for me too

    • http://kikiandtea.com/ Tamsin Howse

      Then let’s be that person :)

      • Gary

        One of the tangible benefits of an active ‘life’ in social media, especially Twitter and blogging is an ever enhanced awareness of how other people feel and interact and then sitting back and thinking how I want to interact with others.

        I promise along with you to be that warm, kind, fun, caring and loyal person :-)

  • http://www.themultitaskingmissus.com/ Gina Soldano-Herrle

    I was talking about exactly this last night with my sister-in-law! We both agreed that your career isn’t what you want to be remembered by when you pass on (maybe it is). But, if one of our loved ones came back they wouldn’t do it to work an extra week or do that extra assignment. They’d do it to spend more time with family. So, here’s my list:
    Creative
    Friendly
    Reliable
    Loving
    Thoughtful

    • http://kikiandtea.com/ Tamsin Howse

      Feels like society pushes us to value the wrong thing, don’t you think?

      • http://www.themultitaskingmissus.com/ Gina Soldano-Herrle

        It absolutely does.