By now you would have heard about Shane Warne flipping out at the MCG. For his dramatics Warne copped a $4,500 fine and a one match ban. While I understand the severity of the penalties, and I understand that what Warne did was unacceptable, this got me thinking about things we’ve all done in the workplace and whether or not some jobs are held to a higher sense of accountability than others.
I am a teacher’s wife. This is a fact I am generally proud of as I believe teachers contribute greatly to society. My best friend is also a teacher and I see first hand every day how incredibly undervalued a teacher’s job is.
However, being a teacher’s wife means that, while not directly employed at a school, my behaviour directly affects my husband’s job.
Let me explain.
A friend of mine put up a status on Facebook that said “On Wednesdays we wear pink”. I responded to it with “You are wearing sweatpants. It’s Thursday. You can’t sit with us.” to which his friend wrote “Boo, you whore” and I replied “Fine. You can walk home, bitches!”
Anyone reading this who is familiar with Mean Girls is probably laughing right now as they see what we did. That friend who wrote the original status found it hilarious. But it was a day later when my husband was approached at work by a colleague “Um… Is this your wife?”
Turns out said colleague is the cousin of my friend on facebook. He was pretty shocked that I was engaging in such a rude discussion, and that anyone would call me a whore. I received a phone call a few moments later and tried to explain the conversation.
I have had my photo taken a lot. For a lot of different photographers for a lot of different reasons. I am very comfortable with myself and, despite a long journey, accept and love my body. However when I’ve been involved in these shoots, I have to be careful about how I’m photographed and what I’m wearing. Why? Because my husband could get in trouble for photos of me. We all heard about the teacher who was fired for having raunchy photos floating around the web or the teacher who was fired for having a sex tape. Their partners are not exempt from that scrutiny.
There are things I can’t do because of my husband’s job. There are photos that can’t be taken. I could never have a nude pregnant shot taken, write about my sex life, perform a burlesque act, become a stand up comedian.
There are topics I can’t write about. There are things I can’t say. Meet me in life and you may be surprised at some of the things that come out of my mouth when I’m not being published on the internet. When it can’t possibly reflect back on my husband in any way.
At what point does it become too much, though?
Does a cricketer need to be held to higher standards because they’re a role model? Should a teacher’s wife be expected to adhere to a strict code of conduct despite not being directly involved with the school? Or is this the minimum we would expect from those who are moulding our children’s futures? Either leading through celebrity, or in the classroom.
What could you be fired for? Do you think it’s fair for some jobs to have stricter codes of conduct than others? Should your job affect your lifestyle?