There’s a disease sweeping through the nation. It’s got the highest rate of contagion of any disease I’ve ever seen. It’s highly aggressive and dissolves through people quicker than you can blink. It’s commonly known as anger, or hate.
It’s a terrible disease. It eats you from the inside out. It consumes you until all you can manage to do is spew it out to those around you.
I’ve noticed a lot more hate and anger around of late. From hacked facebook accounts to statements by radio personalities with everything in between, anger and hate is prevalent in our society. It’s in the streets with angry drivers racing to get nowhere quickly, it’s in cafes with impatient people demanding to be served first. It’s on our twitter stream, it’s on our television, and it’s making its way into our hearts.
This kind of behaviour is toxic, and it’s really easy to be caught up in it when you’re around people who breed that kind of behaviour. It’s easy to catch yourself spewing hate and judgment about others behind their backs. It’s easy to catch yourself putting up passive aggressive facebook updates, or yelling at the windshield when the person in front of you doesn’t indicate.
The problem with this behaviour is the only person it really hurts is you. It hurts your reputation, it consumes your thoughts with negativity, and it will eventually result in people no longer wishing to associate with you. Because, before you know it, you’ve spent so much time fueling the anger in your life that it’s no longer other people who are toxic – it’s you.
It must be exhausting to be consumed with so much hate and anger. Exhausting and unsatisfying.
So how to recognise toxic behaviour? The Change Blog defines toxic relationships as those that:
- Take heavily from us without giving anything back.
- Sap our joy as well as our mental and emotional energy.
- Represent people who are hateful, hurtful, critical and discouraging the vast majority of the time you are around them.
- Constantly leave you feeling empty, guilty, incompetent and ashamed.
- Represent people who are verbally and emotionally abusive to you.
- Bring out the absolute worst in you.
The most important thing to remember is this kind of anger, hate and toxic behaviour does not stem from anything you have said or done. It stems from within.
It’s time to banish toxic behaviour from your life. It’s time to banish thoughts that are negative, critical, bringing you down. It’s time to get rid of those who would encourage you to think and act that way. People who want to hold you back or stop you shine. If you have to lower yourself to be on the same level as the people you’re spending time with, they’re not worth your time.
“There is an important difference between giving up and letting go” Jessica Hatchigan
Have you encountered toxic behaviour? Are you guilty of spreading anger and hate?