Do you make plans or are you a fly by the seat of your pants kind of person? Do you commit to things easily, or do you prefer to consider all the possibilities first? What’s your planning style?
Personally I vary wildly between the two. If I’m in control of something I want to know all the details. If I’m handing over to someone else all I want to know is where they want me and at what time – the rest I don’t even care.
The Viking has a very different planning style. He isn’t comfortable doing something unless he knows all the details. Not content with the basics of what, when and where, he also wants to know who else is going to be there – a challenging feat when you’re not the one organising.
I am hesitant to say yes to something unless I can be sure I can do it. I like to make an informed choice.
That’s the point I will want all the details – to consult with everyone and make sure it is possible before I commit. I will want all the informaiton I can get my hands on to be sure once I say yes to doing something, I’m going to do it.
On the up side you can be sure once I say yes it will be locked in. On the down side, I’ll almost never say yes to something right away.
I was once told by a good friend I’m so hesitant to book in plans it was like I didn’t want to see them at all.
The Viking is the exact opposite. He will say yes to everything and figure out the logistics later (or leave it up to me).
He has no concerns about going back to someone once he’s said yes to something and changing or cancelling the plans (not to that person’s detriment, of course).
Me? I have this irrational belief that once I say yes to something no details are up for negotiation. If I’ve said yes, I’m doing it, no matter what happens between now and then.
Ideally we would both sit somewhere in the middle, but at least we’re not both insane in the same way.
How do you approach making plans? Once you’ve said yes to something, will you cancel or change it?
