We all know the golden rule, treat others as you wish to be treated, but is there a better way? The answer is Yes.
I was recently responding to a conversation with a bunch of bloggers (a gaggle? Gaggle seems like a good collective noun for that) when the issue of unfollowing people came up. The OP said she was disappointed by a blogger unfollowing her as she considered it part of the community spirit for us to follow one another. Someone responded saying that while it is noble to treat others as you wish to be treated, it is often fraught as we do not get the same in return.
That’s true, but it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be noble. It just means the old golden rule needs a bit of an upgrade. And it reminded me of something I was told in a Dealing With Difficult Behaviours seminar – better than the golden rule is the platinum rule.
Treat others as they wish to be treated
It’s all well and good to treat people as you wish to be treated, but it’s often not reciprocated, or it’s misunderstood or misinterpreted. People have different desired behaviours and if you tap in to what they want rather than what you want, you’ll get a far better result.
Do you follow the golden rule? Do you think it could do with an upgrade?