One of the things I have found most difficult about blogging, is what happens when people who know you “in real life” (gosh I hate that term) begin to make assumptions based on the fact that you blog. Often I suspect those assumptions come from not having read things I write, but regardless, they are the perceptions of those around you.
I was at a dinner one evening and a friend of mine, who doesn’t see me often, called out down the table “I get so nervous when I’m with you, Tamsin, I’m constantly wondering if you’re going to blog about this!” To which I replied “I don’t really blog about things people I know say or do… Except that. I’m going to blog that you said that.”
It’s a weird position to be in. To know those around you are wondering if you’re going to write about them. Particularly weird for someone like me who tends to write about myself or strangers, or society at large, rather than those around me. Which has always been a conscious decision, primarily as I own my own life, not anyone else’s. But also because whenever I see blogs written about the people around them, especially those with the blogger’s real name attached, I wonder how this affects their personal relationships going forward. Are people more guarded, more scared? Does it ruin friendships?
I can’t think of anything worse than having my friends be afraid to tell me something or thinking I would call them out on it on the world’s stage (I realise the whole world doesn’t read this website, but how do I know who will?). I have always tried to be quite discrete in the things I divulge about what goes on in my life, particularly where it involves others, but I wonder if the people around me know that. Do they realise?
I know someone who hates to be tagged in anything on social media. I often wonder why they have it at all. But as I’ve been bitten about a good natured photo posting, it makes me a little paranoid to the extent that I will not only ask you if it’s OK to post a photo of you or your child on social media (personally I think this is just good manners) but I will even ask if it’s OK for me to post an image of your dog… or your handbag (if I’ve already asked permission to take a photo of your handbag in the first place). I’ve been told in the past I can be slightly over sensitive, however, so I’m wondering: Is it just me?
Do you wonder what people who blog are going to say about you? Do you get paranoid about it? If you blog, do you write about people you know?