I’m a bit of a real estate addict. I’m always keeping an eye on the market to see what it’s doing, how it’s fluctuating, what my place is worth, what else we could get for a similar price, and so on. The other day I did a search without a maximum price listed, and it came back with a property that made me instantly fall in love.
Isn’t it beautiful? Asking $2-2.5M it’s well out of my price range of course, but it’s just stunning. It was upon sharing it on Facebook my mother in law suggested we buy it as a family. I laughed it off thinking she was having a joke, but when she was over on the weekend she and the Viking started talking as if it were a serious suggestion.
The four of us would buy the house together, they would take the bottom floor apartment (which is house sized in itself) and we would take the rest. They would be on hand to help with kids, we would be able to all live together. It was even brought up that my brother-and-sister-in-law and their kids could move in as well.
At first I thought “What a horrible idea! Surely we would all want to kill each other” But then I thought about it more. What’s wrong with the idea?
I love my in laws, all of them, I love my nieces. Having babysitters in the house for everyone all the time would be amazing, even if it’s just about taking turns and juggling between the 6 adults, and then when my in laws need care we would be able to be there to help them. If we were to have my brother and sister in law as well, it would need to be a bigger place than this one of course, but there would be 6 adults, 4 working, so why not?
It’s not so unusual to have a few generations in the same house if you go back in history a little bit, even just 100 years. Or if you look at different cultures. And it’s been shown time and time again that it takes a village to raise a child. So why don’t more people do this?
I feel like our society is so focussed on the self, it doesn’t take into consideration the bigger family, or what might be a better way to live. A way to combine resources so we can all get the best, just by sharing it. And the only time this kind of thing is displayed in the media is in the form of “weird” people. Extreme religions, children who can’t let go, cults, serial killers, the Manson family and the like.
But it doesn’t have to be. In fact the more I think about it, the more it makes sense. We should buy a house together.
Would you live with your in-laws? Would you live in a multi-generational family home?