
Everyone needs role models, who we choose to look up to is different
Growing up if you had asked me who my role model was or who I looked up to, I would have said my parents, not only because they were taller than me and I had to look upward to see them, but because they had the greatest influence on my life. So apart from my parents, I didn’t grow up with a role model. There were people who I thought were pretty cool, like Inspector Gadget and the Spice Girls, but I never aspired to be them (though I did play a pretty fantastic Posh Spice when me and my friends ‘played’ Spice Girls).
So I never really understood when people would refer to celebrities as role models. Sure, they were in the public eye, but that was it to me. When I wanted to be an actress, I would look upon their lives with a tinge of envy because I so desperately wanted what they had. I then grew up, decided I wanted to be a writer and after much self deprecation realised that being a celebrity would suck.
People would follow you around ALL THE TIME. People you didn’t know would write nasty things about you and make up rumours (one of the many reasons I have steered away from writing about celebrities, because they are people too). You would be scrutinised for every decision you made, good or otherwise.
As people, we are not perfect. It’s a shocking truth, I know, but we’re not. We all make mistakes and occasionally let people down by some decisions that we make. I couldn’t imagine how awful that would be for your mistakes to be talked about all over the internet, in newspapers and magazines and on television. Imagine how it would feel to have random parents of children you’ve never met talking about how you’re such a bad role model and how they fear for their children because they look up to you.
When Britney Spears lost it for a little while there, I felt for her. Clearly, she was going through a really tough time and it was sad to see someone with such a promising future drop so low. But I wasn’t upset for me and the loss of one of my favourite singers from my childhood, I was more concerned about her wellbeing and that of her children.
Because no matter how much I loved Britney, her life and her decisions did not affect me, they only affected her.

Call me old fashioned, but I looked up to my parents
When sporting stars or celebrities fall from grace, there is an outcry that, as role models, they should know better. But these people are human and they make mistakes and their decisions only affect them and their family, not their fans. Or they shouldn’t. Just because Britney shaved her head and attacked cars with umbrellas doesn’t mean I am going to do the same. Just because Tiger Woods doesn’t understand what monogamy is, doesn’t mean that all the people who looked up to his golfing ability are going to cheat on their spouses with lots of people.
These people didn’t ask to be role models. Yes, they are in the public eye and yes, many celebrities and sporting stars have been able to capitalise on this image with lots of endorsements but that doesn’t mean that the public should be holding them accountable to their decisions.
This isn’t trying to excuse some really awful behaviour, just trying to point out that I really don’t understand the “role model thing” because as a child, I only looked up to people I knew. You don’t have to agree with bad behaviour and you are well within your rights to want to shield your child from it, but I don’t see how their personal struggles and downfalls affect anyone other than themselves and their families.
How do you feel about role models? Who were some of your role models growing up? Do you think people in the public eye get a bad wrap sometimes?
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