
Fat Mandi clothing line “not for skinny bitches”
I’m pretty angry right now, guys. I’m angry because Rebel Wilson (who I think is pretty funny, just for the record) has released a line of “Fat Mandi” T-shirts that are being promoted as “Not for skinny bitches”. This has annoyed a few people with Brisbane Times reporting it is sending mixed messages as the “Not for skinny bitches” line of clothing sends a body love message that is directly against her relationship with Jenny Craig. This makes me angry. Why?
Because “not for skinny bitches” is not a body love message!!
It is body shaming bullshit strutting around as a body love message. In what universe is calling someone a bitch due to their body type a body love message? Yeah, I get the reference to The Wedge, and when Rebel played Fat Amy in Pitch Perfect and spouted similar lines I laughed, because I can take a joke and I understand that it’s a joke. I don’t care if Rebel Wilson wants to make clothing with jokes on it that play into her role, and that fit people her size. That doesn’t bother me at all. It’s when reputable sources report it as a body love message that I get angry.
Calling someone names because of their body shape or size is body shaming and it is not OK. It is not OK when it’s someone calling someone else fat and it is not OK when it’s the other way around. It’s not OK to undermine other people’s confidence and it’s not OK to undermine other people’s choices.
Can I say this, even though it’s really controversial? It is OK to want to change your body. It is OK to want to be healthy and it is OK to want to be a healthy size for you. I will add that it needs to come from a place of love, because I think loving yourself first is incredibly important and is, in fact, the only healthy way to change your body (eating disorders are a very real and very deadly problem). But wanting to change your body is OK.
So in regard to her association with Jenny Craig, if Rebel loves her body and wants to lose weight because that’s what is best for her and that’s what she wants, then that’s OK too. That does not mean she is not allowed to be pushing a body love message. In fact, I think saying she cannot be trying to lose weight and pushing a body love message is against the body love message. It’s telling others what they can or cannot do with their bodies.
Love you. Love the size you are. Love your body for what it can do. But if you want to work on changing it because you want to, that’s OK too.
I had a friend recently come to me and tell me she had a body confession to make, and she was really ashamed. She was very slim when she was younger, about a size 8-10, and over the years put on a lot of weight due to some medical issues. She now has those issues under control and wants to lose weight, shape up, and get back to the kind of size her body is naturally designed to be at it’s healthiest. Its “set weight”.

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Her confession to me? “I want to lose weight and get back closer to the size I used to be”
She had been made to feel that part of being a body love ambassador, which she is, was that she wasn’t allowed to want to change her body. She wasn’t allowed to want to be the size she naturally was predisposed to be.
That’s body shaming too.
Telling anyone else what they can or can’t do with their body when you are not their doctor or their specialist is wrong. And it is body shaming.
This goes both ways. I believe it when people tell other people they should lose weight. I believe it when people tell others they should gain weight. And I believe it when people tell others they can’t lose weight.
It is wrong for people to judge other people for the size or shape they are. This is wrong when people are doing it to others for being big, and it is wrong when people are doing it to others for being small.
What part of this is hard for people to understand? Not your body. Not your business.
Do you feel pressure from others about your size? Do you think “not for skinny bitches” promotes size acceptance, or is another form of body shaming?
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