I’m not a liar by nature, in fact I’m not a liar at all, but there are some things that are so honest people don’t want to hear. Some things nobody ever says for fear they will be judged, ridiculed, have their worst fears confirmed. We all do it, when faced with confrontation on something we are sensitive about we hold back, we stay quiet, we fear that people will not react well to what we have to say. Especially when it’s the truth.
You see, I’ve written an article. I know it’s the best, strongest, most honest and most powerful article I’ve ever written. But I can’t hit publish. Why? Because it’s the truth. And I don’t think people want to hear it.
But there’s something interesting I’ve noticed in this, whenever someone has taken a deep breath and told the truth, it often turns out that everyone else was thinking it anyway. It just takes one person to open the flood gates.
This happened recently when Keith Urban said “We’re very, very tight as a family unit and the children are our life, but I know the order of my love, it’s my wife and then my daughters”*
Suddenly all these people came out of nowhere showing their support for this point of view, saying that they completely agree and our society’s failing is that we tell everyone to put the kids first. Pointing out that in French society, the world is designed for the adults, and kids simply have to fall in line.
A similar thing happened when Kate Hunter admitted she didn’t really love her dog, suddenly people everywhere were admitting they didn’t really love their pets either. Sure, they’re nice and everything, but they don’t love them.
I found this really interesting. Both because I’ve always assumed people always put their kids above their partners (although I’ve never entirely understood why, and have assumed this will automatically become clear to be upon giving birth, along with other things like why on earth anyone would fold a fitted sheet, or the desire to cook dinner every night), and because it only took one person to say it, for people to feel comfortable saying it too.
You see, it only takes one. One person to stand out on that ledge, to say it, to be brave, and everyone else will join you. It’s like those movies where everyone is ordered to bow, and one person stands. One person, then two, then many, and when it’s many, the tables have turned.
It only takes one person, but an incredible act of bravery for them. To tell the truth, and hold your breath waiting for the internet to land its’ blow. Am I brave enough to tell the truth? I haven’t decided yet.
Could you tell the truth, even if you thought no one else was thinking it? Would you rather lie?