My Mother, Margaret Thatcher and Me

April 11, 2013 in Celebrity, Current Affairs, Human Rights, News, Politics

My mother has this irritating habit of always seeing the good in people. I suppose it’s an admirable quality too – but sometimes I want to have a rant about some in-justice without having to see it from a different (and empathetic) perspective. There are a two exceptions to this… the ex-boyfriend who cheated on me and Margaret Thatcher. I won’t pretend to understand all the politics of the time. My family enjoyed a relatively comfortable lifestyle; we had overseas holidays, two cars. We didn’t experience financial suffering the way thousands of others in our country did. Perhaps it was my mother’s [...]

When a Nickname Hurts

March 13, 2013 in Body Image, Gender, Health, Mental Health, Sexuality

This post may contain words offensive to some readers. Nicknames: most of us have one, maybe more. Usually those around us give them to us. When I was born, I was a solid baby, and a long baby. My first nickname given to me by my parents was ‘Big Bird’.  And to this day, they still bust it out, now and again. Once I started school, I was quickly named ‘Mars’ or ‘Mars Bar’ by my primary school peers.  Harmless and fun. Nothing hurtful about these nicknames. Then came high school- ‘Bostik’ (the glue stick, as I was straight up [...]

The Truth About Why I Hate My Name

November 7, 2012 in Family, Mental Health, Self, Stories

I hate my name. No one who has known me for longer than 5 minutes can escape hearing that I hate my name. Sometimes it takes all of the 30 seconds for me to tell them what my name is, them respond “Oh… That’s an unusual name!” and get an immediate “I hate it”. I have hated my name for as long as I can remember. I hate the sound of it, I hate that it sounds a bit like Tantrum (thanks to my brother for starting that nickname) and a lot like a feminine hygiene product. I hate that [...]

Confidence and the Fear of Rejection

July 12, 2012 in Body Image, Dating, Health, Mental Health, People, Relationships, Self

Today’s guest post by Mandi Aylmore: There comes a moment in your life, when you have to just accept who you are. You realise you aren’t going to change. You also realise that you actually like who you are (unless of course you are an axe murderer, in which case I would strongly suggest you keep working on yourself. Change is a good thing!) Well, recently, I’ve had that moment. I’ve embraced my nerdiness. I’ve realised that despite my nerdom, I’m actually kinda awesome, and that I no longer hate myself. That’s a huge thing for me to say. I’ve [...]

Friday, I’m Just Not That Into You

March 30, 2012 in Lifestyle, Music

Some mornings sneak up on you quietly, like a thief in the night. You wake up slowly, refreshed, feeling ready to take on the day. Fridays, on the other hand, smack me in the face. If there was one day I could do without, it would be Friday. “Oh, but Friday is my favourite day of the working week” I hear you cry. Is it? Why? Friday is the day standing between you and the weekend. Friday is the day when we’re not quite in the work zone enough to work, yet we’re not quite in the weekend zone enough [...]