The birth of the Princess of Cambridge is not about Diana.
The birth of any baby is something to be celebrated, at least I think so. The news of the arrival of the Princess of Cambridge over the weekend was a joyous occasion and you could see the pride radiating from both the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge as they introduced their precious little girl to the world. I also have to mention how adorable little George was when he came to the hospital to meet his brand new baby sister (and how glad I am that he seemed so confused by all the cameras, which I hope means he’s not subjected to cameras in his face all the time). Whether you’re a republican or a monarchist, I think we can all agree that with the current sad state of affairs across the world, it’s nice to celebrate the arrival of a child.
However there is a part of this celebration that has been grating on me. It’s the same thing that grates on me every time something happens for William. Can we please, please, stop making everything about Diana?
As soon as it was announced that a daughter was born (but before the formal announcement of her name), all over social media and on numerous news articles, the following were popular comments:
- Diana would have been thrilled. I hope they use Diana in the name.
- I would love them to name the baby Diana, it would be a tribute to Princess Diana.
- Princess Diana would be a wonderful name.
- Hope they name her Diana.
- How beautiful would it be to name their baby for her grandmother!
These examples barely scratch the surface.
I understand that this is just meant to be a lovely sentiment, mentioning his mother who loved him so, and how a tragic set of circumstances has meant she missed this special moment among so many others. I mean, who can forget the look on the faces of William and Harry at their mother’s funeral? It was heartbreaking and it still is. However, it frustrates me to no end that everything to do with William seems to be brought back to Diana. In this case, in the choosing of the name of his daughter.
Now I know that none of the people who have made these comments would imagine that their opinion would factor into the decision making process, nor would they ever harass the Duke and Duchess about their name choice, but it’s just another example of how it always seems to come back to Diana.
It is obviously very sad that Diana is no longer with her beloved sons. However, having lived over the last 17 years of his life without his mother, it’s unfortunately something William would be used to. I would assume that when he got married and became a father, he would have felt his mother’s absence, but I don’t think he would let her absence overshadow these moments. In the same way that I miss my mum during the big moments of my life, but I don’t let her not being here ruin those occasions or make them about her, because they’re not.
Overnight it has been announced that the Princess of Cambridge’s full name is Charlotte Elizabeth Diana which I think we can all agree is a lovely name. It’s classic, regal, and it has the nod to Diana that so many people were hoping for. I think it is a really beautiful choice and I think it is very sweet that they have honoured Diana in her name. However, if they decided not to have Diana as a middle name, I would most likely have thought it was a lovely name anyway as the choice of her name comes down to William and Catherine, not us.
When I eventually have children, if I end up having a daughter, I don’t expect that people will tell me that they hope I name her after my mum. Why would they? But why is this any different? I know I’m not royalty but I lost my mother when I was younger, like William. It is really lovely that they have included Diana and I smiled when I heard the name. But I think I would have smiled whether Diana was included or not.
This isn’t me telling you not to think of Diana or saying that she should never be mentioned. It’s only natural that she is. And there’s nothing wrong with that. But this isn’t about Diana. This is about the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge and their children.
Are you glad they honoured Diana in naming the new Princess? Would you have been upset if they hadn’t?