Finding Out The Gender: Surprise, It’s A…


I’m a little bit of a control freak. I like to be organised and I like to know what’s happening. So it was no surprise that when we found out I was pregnant, I was going to find out the sex of our unborn child.

We marched into the hospital with confidence. I thought we were having a boy, a little girl that I worked with told me that it was a boy, so I was convinced. Although, I do have to admit that there was a large spark of hope that we were having a girl. I’m not one for pink, but there are some awesome, very cute tutus out there and my husband and I had settled on a girl’s name long before we’d even entertained the notion of having kids.

The sonographer asked if we wanted to find out the sex. My husband replied ‘yes’ and I froze. What if I was told I was having a boy? I mean, I had prepared myself for having a boy, but I did secretly really want a girl.

Finally my husband talked me round and yes, we found out the sex. The sonographer confidently informed us that we would be welcoming a little girl into the world in March 2014. I cried, because that is what I do, and promptly caught some pink-buying bug.

I went into work and told the student who’d thought it was a boy, that in fact we were having a girl. She replied, ‘nope, it’s a boy named Patrick’ and the niggling ‘we’re having a boy’ feeling remained with me.

Nevertheless, I had a pink baby shower and little pink presents were sent from near and far (even though I seriously dislike pink), but I still couldn’t bring myself to buy the aforementioned tutu.

On D-Day (delivery day), after a very long couple of days, we welcomed our beautiful baby BOY into the world. When they finally placed him on my chest, there was no other way that it could have been. Of course we were welcoming a beautiful, healthy boy into our world. Of course this was the feeling I had all along, as though the mothering intuition had snuck in early to send me boy vibes.

Whatever had happened, whatever I had thought about having a boy or a girl, I now have our son, and he is perfect.

Did you or will you find out the gender of your unborn children? Were you told the wrong gender?


  • Kris

    Nope, didn’t find out. None of us (my brother and sister) found out. I don’t see a point. I’m also not a “baby person” so it wasn’t like I wanted to get a whole bunch of stuff beforehand, and I’m not into pink for girls blue for boys either, so didn’t matter at all.

  • Monique Fischle

    Stories like this, however uncommon they may be, are part of the reason I don’t want to find out. If I had wrapped my head around having a girl and prepared for a girl (or boy), to then have a baby of the opposite gender would mess with my mind.

    • 26 Years & Counting

      I think I would be that way too!

  • 26 Years & Counting

    And here we thought you were just messing with us by telling us you were having a girl 😉