What Do You Do To Relax?


Lately I’ve been feeling run down, worn out, tired, and a little bit sad. Work has been hectic, and then there’s social obligations outside of work. They’re all fun, and I want to attend them, but I’m feeling like I need a day (or week) off from my life.

A conversation with the Viking quickly confirmed he felt similarly and we soon identified the problem: we don’t know how to relax.

It’s become a habit to go to work, get home, and go “I’m tired”, “I’ve had a hard day” and not be bothered to make anything decent for dinner (or we buy something). Follow this with one of those skinny cow ice cream sandwiches, because we deserve it (and omg those things are the best), then sit in front of Big Bang Theory on the sofa until we go to bed, by which time I’ve normally passed out on the couch.

Then there’s this website, and the others we have, the Viking’s podcast, his music, and all the other projects we randomly decide to do.

Add to that the games nights we have every week (2 per week), plus any Friday & Saturday night plans, and you quickly have a week that disappears in a puff of smoke.

So where’s the relaxation? Where is the true down time? The simple fact is – it isn’t there. And we need your help.

How do you relax? What do you do to wind down? How do you manage to recharge to face another day?


  • Gary

    I’ve discovered relaxation through taking up a hobby. well not so much taking up a hobby, rather a slow movement into one. I’ve always loved food, cooking and eating. I used to do a lot of photography and now I’ve discovered social media and food photography. I spend my down time watching YouTube videos on cooking and photography. The technical aspects of the cooking and photography are good for my mind (my background is medical science and medicine), I find it very relaxing and satisfying when I know I have a good looking plate and I can capture a permanent memory of it. I never used to think I’d have a hobby to divert my mind. I now have one and it’s very satisfying.

    • http://kikiandtea.com/ Tamsin Howse

      I have this website, does that count?

      • Gary

        I reckon it does. BTW I love your website :-)

        • http://kikiandtea.com/ Tamsin Howse

          Thanks! I love it too. But it’s not relaxing šŸ˜‰

  • 26 Years & Counting

    It has only been since my full time job ended and I’m working part time that I have been able to relax more.

    • http://kikiandtea.com/ Tamsin Howse

      Sadly, not an option

      • 26 Years & Counting

        It wasn’t an active choice on my part :) It was an ‘aaaaahh I need a job’ and part time is what came up first! If I wasn’t so poor being part time I would happily stay in part time work.

  • Maryann

    I knit, do needlepoint, read a book, take a walk, cook. But my all time favourite thing to do do is sit by the sea and do nothing. Just lettting it flow over me. I have a very small group I socilaise with and love nothing more than a weekend with no plans so I can just be. This type of weekend may see me take the train to Kiama or curl up and read a whole book barely moving from home.

    • http://kikiandtea.com/ Tamsin Howse

      I keep thinking I want to sit on the beach or in a hammock or something, but when I come to do it I just can’t.

  • Kel

    I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea but have you got a slow cooker? I can email you some delicious recipes that don’t taste like stew! Then you’ve got a healthy, warm dinner ready for you as soon as you walk in the door.

    I recently taught myself to crochet and that is such a relaxing hobby. It almost becomes meditative and is something you can do in front of the telly. I also love reading and will try to go to bed half an hour early so I can wind down before I go to sleep.

    At the risk of sounding like your mum (although I am one so maybe that’s ok!) a healthy dinner, lots of sleep and no computers after 8 (if possible) will go a long way in making you feel better.

    • http://kikiandtea.com/ Tamsin Howse

      Yes, mum šŸ˜‰

      You’re completely right, of course. I know having a tasty healthy dinner would make a massive difference (also to my bank balance!) but man it’s tough!

      I’d love you to send me recipes! tamsin@kikiandtea.com

    • Ozgirl

      I like the no computer after 8pm idea!

      Maybe that is another idea Tamsin. With things like the website maybe you need a shut off time?

      Although that might make you feel more stressed with less time to do things!