So Kristen Stewart cheated on Robert Pattinson – I know, my jaw dropped when I found out. For a woman who often appears so sullen in her interaction with the media, I have read interviews where ‘R-Patz’ has defended her ‘shy’ behavior and it would appear he is nothing short of a gentleman when discussing her or making appearances with her.
Not only did Kristen cheat, but she cheated with a married father (who is equally complicit). Kristen was busted when photos that were undeniable in their authenticity and physical interaction surfaced. She took to twitter almost immediately, making the following statement: ‘This momentary indiscretion has jeopardized the most important thing in my life, the person I love and respect the most, Rob. I love him, I love him, I’m so sorry.’
What happens next is between Kristen and Robert and, unfortunately, the world. I think if she truly respected Robert as much as she says, then perhaps she wouldn’t have been unfaithful. The wife of the man she cheated with played her mother in the movie Snow White and the Huntsman which he directed. To me, it seems she has little respect for boundaries at all.
What makes this story a little different to other celebrity relationships that have been ruined by infidelity is that we are used to men being the culprits. This is not to say women don’t cheat, but as a society, I think we may have been less surprised if Robert Pattinson had done the cheating. Think back – Tiger Woods, Ashton Kutcher, Jessie James, Jude law… the list goes on.
Which brings me to my question: is cheating when you are in a committed relationship ever OK? Is it forgivable? And the ultimate ‘cheater’ question – can a cheater change their ways?
For me, it was. I gave my ex a second chance and all he did was exploit that chance. And when the dust settled and I had kicked him out, and made it clear that we would never be a couple again, his comments now sound strangely familiar: “But it meant nothing – I love YOU. You are the most important thing in my life, I love you. I am sorry.”
Those words sounded hollow back then. They still feel that way. I was ready to spend my life with this man but his repeated ‘indiscretions’ showed me that I would never be able to trust him, even if he had never cheated again, how would I have known for sure? I look at women like Sandra Bullock who behaved with the utmost dignity when her husband, Jesse James was found to have been unfaithful with numerous women throughout their entire marriage. She packed her bags and left. She focused on not ‘slagging’ him off, her dignified silence spoke volumes, but her actions spoke more when she voted with her feet.
Kristen Stewart is now not only being branded a ‘cheat’ she also has tabloid covers with ‘home wrecker’ slapped across them. It would appear that she is now going to take the heat off her predecessor who was branded the same thing: Angelina may well get a break from extensive tabloid magazine coverage where her every move is followed and photographed. It would seem the torch has been passed. Is it fair that K-Stew and R-Patz will have to decide how to move on from this in the public eye? No. But that’s the price celebrities pay. So is she a ‘home wrecker’? Of all the things the media have called her or accused her of being over the last few years, this is by far the worst, and easily the hardest to recover from.
What do you think? Can Kristen recover from this? Do you believe a cheater will always cheat? Have you ever cheated or been cheated on?
Maree Talidu has written 46 posts.
Maree is a high school teacher who is first and foremost a child of God and values her faith, her family & her friendships. Maree has gypsy blood and music running through her veins. She is an advocate for 'Invisible Illnesses' and is passionate about helping her students realise their full potential. Maree collects sneakers, concert tickets and all things kitsch. Maree once broke up with someone who accused her of inventing the word 'cryptic' to confuse him. She loves video games and remains unbeaten on 'Tony Hawk's Pro Skater 3'. Maree likes to write on behalf of those who may not feel they have a voice.