Comments on: The Importance of Mothers

By: Monique Fischle

Monique Fischle — Sat, 12 May 2012 03:28:31 +0000

Yeah, the timing wasn’t fantastic, especially considering Mum had already bought me a present, it’s the weirdest feeling, opening a present from someone who is now dead. It was a gorgeous silver bangle but I lost it a few years ago and I’m still devastated.

Christmas time sounds like it would be so hard for you and your family. Thanks for your kind words my dear

By: Rose Russo

Rose Russo — Sat, 12 May 2012 01:43:38 +0000

Beautiful post Monique xxx
That day, 22nd December was my little brother’s birthday.. he passed away in 1991. That must have been terribly sad for you and your family, especially so close to Christmas. I too feel the pain at Christmas as our birthdays are a day apart (mine is 23rd December) so I try to separate the two emotional pulls of both days but it is very hard.
I love your writing and your mum would be very proud of you

By: Monique Fischle

Monique Fischle — Fri, 11 May 2012 05:19:46 +0000

I do have a pretty amazing family.

Things like this never do leave you and losing a parent at any age is extremely upsetting. My Grandma (Mum’s Mum) only died two years ago and I remember sitting in the funeral and realising that Mum never knew what it was like to lose a parent. Something that has shaped my life so completely (her dying) is something she never experienced. It’s weird knowledge to have.

I hope you get a chance to speak to your Mum!

By: Naz Kovacs

Naz Kovacs — Fri, 11 May 2012 00:41:42 +0000

Lovely post Monique, I can’t even imagine how hard it is not to have your mum around but from what I’ve read here and on MM sounds like you have an amazing dad and sister and that you’re all there for each other I have now been leaving overseas for over a year and haven’t seen my mum/parents at all during that time. So this mother’s day I will most likely be giving her a call but seeing as though she is in Christmas Island right now, sending flowers will be out of the question until her and my dad return to Melbourne. So looks like she will get a belated mother’s day present.

I still remember the day over 20 years ago when my grandma (mum’s mum) passed away, my mum was 38 and had just had my younger sister 2 years prior. It was my our first trip back to our home country after just having moved to Australia a year prior, we were there for 3 months but my grandma passed away in an accident within a month of us being there. I still remember how devastated my mum was even though I was only young I could feel her pain. To this day we all still remember and talk about my grandma and I honestly feel her presence every now and then. Hard to explain but yeh, they never leave you.

By: Monique Fischle

Monique Fischle — Fri, 11 May 2012 00:29:55 +0000

Thanks Will, that’s so nice of you to say. I’m sure your Nan will be super proud!

By: Monique Fischle

Monique Fischle — Fri, 11 May 2012 00:28:44 +0000

I can’t imagine how these days must feel for you, you poor thing! I get a little bit irritated, hence why I like to avoid the shops, despite going today to buy myself a Mac! YAY! But sometimes I just get annoyed when people call asking for Mum, I mean, it’s been eight years, update your records and I’ve told them to do that many times.

I get uncomfortable with sympathy, which might seem odd considering I wrote this, but it’s always a little bit awkward.

Lots of love to you as well Mel!! Xx

By: Monique Fischle

Monique Fischle — Fri, 11 May 2012 00:26:42 +0000

That’s nice. It is all a bit commercialised. I remember hearing somewhere that Mother’s Day was actually started by a woman wanting to remember her Mum who had died. I may be wrong though. We like to buy Dad something for Father’s Day because he only ever gets presents from us, so it means there’s 3 times a year we can get him something

By: Whippersnapper

Whippersnapper — Thu, 10 May 2012 23:45:17 +0000

You too xxx

By: Whippersnapper

Whippersnapper — Thu, 10 May 2012 23:41:55 +0000

Well, Mr W’s family doesn’t believe in Mothers Day, Fathers Day, Valentines Day, etc – they say it is all a bunch of commercialised nonsense to make us all spend money.

SO, we don’t really even remember it on the actual day because his family isn’t into it and I don’t have anyone to celebrate Fathers Day for. It is usually just another Sunday for us. I don’t feel sad about it anymore though.

Before I met Mr W, it was kind of the same. We only buy Mum something small for Mothers Day because we feel we *should* rather than any big celebration of Mothers Day.

By: Willskis

Willskis — Thu, 10 May 2012 23:34:15 +0000

Hey Mon, really liked this piece. It’s really a hard time for a lot of people. I’m heading back to Quirindi this weekend to be with my Mum and uncle, who are still really shaky about losing my Nan a few months back. It’s going to be tough. Hope you have a nice Mother’s Day despite everything, I’ll be having a conversation with Nan at the cemetery this Sunday as well. She’ll be happy I got a job.