Life Imitating Art

May 23, 2012 in Celebrity, Dating, Entertainment, Film & TV, Relationships, Sex, Work

Watching them fall in love on screen knowing they had off screen made it that much sweeter

Don’t you just love it when actors who are a couple on-screen announce that they are also a couple off-screen? Well I do. I think this is because it makes their relationship on the television show or in the movie they star in appear more real. And just like it makes me happy when they are together in real life. I must admit, I do become a little bit upset when they announce their split…invariably because they have fallen in love with another co-star.

But why does this happen, I hear you ask? It is a simple case of life imitating art. When you spend a great deal of your time with a member of the opposite (or same) sex and are required to act out intensely emotional scenes as though you are deeply in love with that person, then chances are, you will fall prey to infatuation.

Infatuation is love’s confusing cousin that rears its annoying head quite frequently. When you are an actor dedicated to giving the most realistic performance in a film, it arouses certain feelings that otherwise wouldn’t have been an issue. And the worst part is that, more often than not, they haven’t fallen in love with the person, they have fallen in love with the person’s character which is why the majority of these relationships are doomed to fail before they even begin.

Rachel McAdams, who was part of the best off-screen hook up ever when she got together with her The Notebook co-star, Ryan Gosling, has said “I usually take away one close relationship from every job, some romantic, some not.” After her and Ryan broke up in 2007 and then 2008, Rachel fell in love with another costar and has been dating Michael Sheen, who she met on the set of Midnight In Paris, ever since. On a complete side note, how, how can you go from Ryan to Michael? Every time I look at him, I think of him singing “I’ll be there always, when the rain falls in Wales”, 30 Rock anyone?

Rachel’s statement about forming relationships on set I’m sure is true for many actors in Hollywood. You spend all your time with someone; feelings naturally develop, but is this OK when your co-star is already in a relationship? While this is normal, to act on it is not OK (ahem Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie). It’s no wonder the divorce rate in Hollywood is exceedingly high.

But Rachel, in an interview with Glamour magazine recently, said: “A set may seem like a good place for romance, but I don’t think it’s very conducive. It’s too distracting. Every relationship I’ve had with a coworker has come after the fact, because you wind up actually spending a lot of time with those people promoting the movie.” So it seems that she and Ryan weren’t together while pretending to be Noah and Allie. Damn.

As for me, even though they aren’t together any more, I still like to believe that they will find their way back to each other, just like Noah and Allie do.

Ryan Gosling once said in an interview with GQ: “God bless The Notebook. It introduced me to one of the great loves of my life. But people do Rachel and me a disservice by assuming we were anything like the people in that movie. Rachel and my love story is a hell of a lot more romantic than that.”

OK, I’ve changed my mind, I would like it if Ryan Gosling found me.

The Top 10 Steamiest on-set hook ups according to celebrityfix.com:

Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie (Mr and Mrs Smith, 2005)
Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart (Twilight, 2008)
Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams (The Notebook, 2004)
Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck (Gigli, 2002)
Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise (Days of Thunder, 1990)
Penelope Cruz and Javier Bardem (Jamon, 1992 then Vicki Christina Barcelona, 2007)
Blake Lively and Penn Badgley (Gossip Girl, 2007)
Mark Salling and Naya Rivera (Glee, 2010)
Zac Efron and Vanessa Hudgens (High School Musical, 2006)
Taylor Swift and Taylor Lautner (Valentine’s Day, 2010)
NB: of these 10 couples, only three are still together

What do you think about on-screen/off-screen hook ups? What about work place relationships in general? And just how much do you wish Ryan Gosling wanted to date you?

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Mazi Gray

In My local Am-Dram society, one leading Tenor has dated and then broken up with his last two leading ladies.
Love is a Mental Illness after all
- Monique Fischle
  
  Oh wow. That would have made things very uncomfortable. And if you’re interested in the love as a mental illness angle, I would recommend reading Delirium by Lauren Oliver, it’s very interesting!
http://tamsinhowse.com/blog Tamsin Howse

My favourite was Jessica Alba and Michael Weatherly, who were engaged while filming Dark Angel.
- Monique Fischle
  
  Even though she’s all happily married now, I did love them as a couple in real life. Also Jennifer Garner and Michael Vartan when they worked together on Alias. But her and Ben Affleck have adorable children
Melissa Savage

I’m getting married to a co-star

The Jellyman and I met while doing a re-worked version of Romeo and Juliet. I played Juliet and he played Paris, so we had one or two scenes together and I spent most of the play making out with the actor playing Romeo, a married dad of three who remains our very good friend (he is a groomsman at our wedding and his daughters are our flowergirls).

I can’t speak for film sets, cos I’ve only done short film shoots, but a play is a really intense emotional experience shared with a particular group of people over a fair chunk of time, usually at least three months. Running in to someone I did a play with years ago and haven’t seen since is like running into an ex-boyfriend. The creative environment means you are a lot more open and vulnerable around your castmates than you would be around your regular day job co-workers (for those of us who have a conventional and conservative day job like me) and is therefore conducive to developing intense relationships, both platonic and intimate.
- Melissa Savage
  
  Oh yeah, and re: making out with a stranger/someone you’re not attracted to IRL, after the first time I didn’t even find it weird. It was just a stage direction ‘enter here, walk here, stop at this line, kiss here’.
- Monique Fischle
  
  What a super cute story of how you met
  
  It’s understandable that these things happen because you spend sooo much time together and like you said, in a creative environment you are much more open and vulnerable. And for your comment below, kissing a stranger is part of the craft, for the most part, it’s just a different form of “work”.

KiKi & Tea