What Women Really Want In A Man


I have a confession to make. I’m in love. Yes it’s true. I’m in love with Don Draper and the rest of the Mad Men gang. I could happily spend the whole weekend on my couch with nothing but old fashioned’s, cigarettes (I socially smoke but I would smoke all day with him) and simply shut off from the rest of the world. I know I’m obsessed – each day I watch a new sneak peak video of Season 5 which aired on Sunday in the US and I share them all on Facebook and Twitter. How can people seriously live their lives not having watched this show? Are you mad?

What I love about it is that the show may be called “Mad Men” a term coined for advertising execs in the 1960s, but the women are just as mad as the men.

Since I’m counting down the hours till I can watch the first episode of Season 5 I’ve been madly (like what I did there?) searching the internet for interviews, spoilers, articles, ANYTHING related to the hit show.

Recently, Mad Men actress Christina Hendricks (Joan) did an interview with Esquire magazine which compiled a list of ‘Things Men Should Know About Women’. Here’s a few of Ms Hendricks’ tips. You’re welcome.

1. We love our man’s body when we love our man

Christina explains how powerfully enticing the scent of a man we love is to us. It’s intoxicating! The smell of a man as he’s all spruced up is one of the most divine smells on this planet. You know, just the right amount of aftershave. I may have been one of those girls who has taken note of a certain smell and then picked up the lynx can in Coles and sprayed some into the lid… If you’re reading, why hello yes it was you! One of the greatest things to me has always been the lingering smell of your man on a t-shirt you borrow to sleep in or your pillow the night after he stays over. Essence of a man; intoxicating. Women smell pretty damn fine too.

2. Women love it when a man acts like a gentleman

Isn’t this the truth! Chivalry will never go out of style. Men take note; tattoo it on your body I don’t care! I read an article a few months ago about how some women believe chivalry is sexist. NO, NO, NO! Who are these women? Opening our car door, heck any door is still a timeless, classy and appreciated quality in a man. It is sexy. Okay?

3. “We remember everything you say about our bodies”

Sadly this is true. When I was a teenager I had a boy say I had big thighs. Tell a woman something negative and we will become obsessed for all eternity with getting rid of it. Damn him anyway, wasn’t like he was perfect. A genuine compliment will take you a long way.

4. Pay attention to the little things

Ms Hendricks also admonishes men to pay attention to the little things we say, and that those experiences and gifts often mean the most. When she started dating her now husband she mentioned she had a fascination with the circus. Several months later he turned up with a black and white photography anthology of circus folk. Paying attention and being thoughtful and observant are always great qualities in a relationship.

PS. I like money. Lots of it.

I jest.

5. Expand your vocabulary

Writer Jill Brown explains another great tip for our male counterparts is the appeal of an expanded vocabulary. ‘Beautiful’ is great – but sometimes it gets worn out. Jill had a random stranger at the table, lean over to her date at dinner in Manhattan and quietly says ‘The smile that launched a thousand ships, huh?’

‘Stunning’ and just simply ‘God damn’ is pretty acceptable too fellas.

6. “We want you to order Scotch”

For you and for me too please! Scotch is sexy. If a man orders any dark spirit I think I fall instantly in lust. Hendricks says her reason is simple: “It’s the most impressive order… it’s a classic. It’s sexy”

Damn straight.  I don’t care if you don’t like scotch. For the love of Don Draper – pretend dammit. Capish?

7. “No man should be on Facebook”

This is probably the only piece of advice that I disagree with. How else are we supposed to stalk you, I mean, get to know you. More accurately I would suggest not posting every little thing on Facebook, or any social networking site for that matter. Keep the mystery alive but please post a sexy profile pic so we have something to ogle at daily.

I’m sure Christina would agree with me but I thought it was appropriate to throw a couple of tips in myself since I’m just batting away men with a stick at the moment!

8. We like to be chased but not too much

It’s important to have a life of your own. Let’s keep the mystery alive as long as possible, eh? But women like to think that you think about us from time to time. So engage in a bit of banter – I speak on behalf of all women that we love a bit of harmless flirtation.

Just don’t go overboard. I don’t want to feel like I’m in the sequel to Fatal Attraction.

9. Be ambitious

Seriously, there’s nothing sexier than a man with a plan. Love something – I don’t care what it is but whether you’re passionate about footy, your antique stamp collection or building a fortress with empty beer bottles it translates into how you approach your everyday life. You don’t have to be worldly but showing that you take an interest in something that is just for you, shows confidence and trust me nothing is sexier. Unless of course you’re carrying a bottle of Jack Daniels and Ferrero Rochers, all bets are off! You no longer exist.

What would you add to the list? What other important things should men know about women and vice versa?

  • http://music.johnanthonyjames.com/ John James

    You had me at Christina Hendricks….

    Oh, who am I kidding…you had me at Don Draper…


    • http://tamsinhowse.com/blog Tamsin Howse

      Christina Hendricks for me!

  • Mandi Aylmore

    I would add Be Yourself. I can tell when you are putting on an act, and it’s not attractive. I will be myself when around you, so I expect you to do the same.

    And I would just like to add that I’m a sucker for a good smile. So a good smile is on my list :)

    • http://tamsinhowse.com/blog Tamsin Howse

      So true. Confidence, as well.

  • Monique Fischle

    I love Mad Men. I love it. I love Don Draper. I love Sterling. I love Joan. I love the outfits. I love how it’s totally acceptable for them to be drinking hard liquor at work. I love the furniture. I love the glasses they drink their alcohol from. I love how they try to portray what things were like back them.

    I get that’s not what this post was about, but I just really love Mad Men.

    Oh and men should know that sometimes we just need to complain, but we don’t need you to try and fix the situation or have you tell us “everything will be fine” because sometimes, we just need to let off some steam.